| 07 June 2011
I just got off the court with a semi-successful guy who consistently sabotages his next "chance." He goes into a meeting with his errors on his forehead, his shame surrounding him and he accentuates his shortcomings. I wondered with him this morning if this was his way of testing. Was this his way to find out his love-ability level? "If I show them this and they still hire me for the job...."
He hits a deep forehand, gets a mid-height, mid-court return. He moves in to meet it and topspins it into the net for a clean loser. He laughs, hits his head with his racket and mopes back to the baseline to receive the next serve. "That's familiar."
He laughed and added, "If I get the job, then the next time I'll put more of my failures in the way and see if that makes me not good enough."
We played a few more points which he lost with great ease; but instead of shrugging them off, he began to get interested. "What do I need to do to win?" he asked. "Federer was up 5-2 in the French - same thing I do."
I suggested, "Could we simply begin by finding out if you are seeing the ball; and then finding out if you want it to go over the net and in."
That hole - that deep well - of fraudulence is hard to get out of. He decided - a least as we parted this morning - to put on some metaphorical gloves and begin to dig and claw his way out.
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